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The right of the parent is not worth more than the safety of a trans child
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The right of the parent is not worth more than the safety of a trans child

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  Queer, Transmasc, Nonbinary, Neurodivergent  They/He Dee Whitnell Qualified LGBTQ+ Sex Educator, journalist, author

Working with trans youth in a secondary school in London in 2020, I witnessed hardship.

Trans pupils struggled as their support network and trusted adults didn’t support them or affirm their gender identity.

There was casual misgendering of pupils who had made their pronouns clear — teachers and pupils ignoring transphobia in the hallways. The on-site counsellor attended LGBTQ+ lunchtime clubs in case anything ‘sensitive’ was mentioned.

I know the potential impact of the guidance - I was a teacher

As a trans teacher, I became a sort-of mentor for the LGBTQ+ pupils at the school.

In particular, the trans and gender-diverse kids had little to no support from many other adults in their life. I was likely the first trans adult they had met in person.

But I also experienced the same misgendering and ignorance that my pupils faced within the school walls.

That's what's so worrying about the multiple leaks about government guidance for trans kids in schools. If it goes ahead as we understand it, it will not just encourage but also mandate the already- rife misgendering and ignorance in schools.

The Education Secretary Gillian Keegan confirmed that the government intends to make schools out trans children to their parents. That could be the case even if parents hold anti-trans views.

The leaks suggest it could also make it acceptable to not ‘agree’ with a pupil's identity. It could also mandate teachers not use a trans kid's preferred pronoun and ban trans kids from single-sex spaces like toilets.

The guidance was due by the end of the school term this week. It has now been delayed after plans to strengthen it were deemed unlawful by the attorney general.

The government would be giving the go-ahead for transphobia to flourish within schools

The changes are designed to put ‘the right of the parent’ over the safety of the trans individual.

The result? Many people, including myself, fear this guidance will lead to higher rates of deaths, both from suicide and violence, amongst trans youth. To more abuse at the hands of anti-trans households. Trans students left with no choice but to hide their identity at school for fear of being outed.

We have already seen the community and allies be vocal over the leaked guidance - this likely had some effect on the delay. We must keep this outcry going and remain loud if, when the official guidance is released, it still endangers trans kids.

If I only had one impact on the pupils I worked with, it was to let them know that trans adults exist.

That trans kids can grow up and have jobs, relationships, a home, and a life. trans kids need to see trans adults - and feel able to talk about their true identities

Trans kids deserve to grow up safely and happily - as everyone should. They can with our support.

| First commissioned in Jul 2023 as part of our mission to fund queer media careers Queer AF @s3xtheorydee Contact Dee, and commision them too Dee Whitnell is a qualified RSHE educator and Journalist Content Creator for PinkNews, covering LGBTQ+ News around the world. Within in their own, Dee educates their audience on all LGBTQ+ matters, from pronouns to safer sex practises.  They/He Dee Whitnell Qualified LGBTQ+ Sex Educator, journalist, author
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